Workplace Romance in Japan

Workplace Romance in Japan Love

How did the romance at work start?

How can a romance at work start? What led them to develop into lovers or cause them to fall in love? We inquired as to the origin of each gender’s professional romance.

How did man’s romance start?

We see each other every day, so we became friends by greeting each other.

They became friends through drinking parties.

Became friends through teaching or being taught about work

Attracted by the way he worked

Love at first sight

How did the woman fall in love?

Became friends through drinking

Became friends through teaching/training at work

We became friends by greeting each other since we see each other every day.

Attracted by the way he/she works

The other person approached me

Advantages of in-house romance

Easy to understand each other’s schedule

Because you work at the same company, it is easy to keep track of each other’s schedules. If you know each other’s schedules, you can adjust the timing of your meetings.

Another advantage is that even if there are periods when you are too busy to see each other, you do not have to worry because you know what is going on with the other person.

Easy to schedule a date after work, etc.

One of the problems for working people in relationships is that it is difficult to see each other due to work.

However, with an in-house relationship, you can see each other every day, and you can go on a date after work.

You can see them working at the office.

It is not often that you get a chance to see your lover at work. However, with an in-house romance, you can see how they spend their time at work.

You may fall in love with him or her again when you see them working hard, or you may want to encourage them or when you see them making mistakes.

Since you can see a different side of your boyfriend/girlfriend from his/her private life, you are less likely to think, “This is not what I imagined! and it tends to last for a long time.

Disadvantages of in-house romance

High risk of being discovered by others

This is probably the biggest disadvantage of in-house relationships. When people around you find out that you are dating, they may give you the cold shoulder.

Also, even if you are working diligently, some people may suspect you of mixing your public and private life.

Without a strong will not worry about such surroundings, an in-house relationship may not be possible.

You may feel jealous when you see your boyfriend/girlfriend talking with colleagues of the opposite sex, even though you know they are just doing their job.

Since they are in the same company, you can’t just stop watching them because you don’t want to be jealous. Because you can’t help but see it, jealous people are not good candidates for workplace romance.

Signs of Favoritism in Workplace Romance

Not limited to workplace romance, you may be unsure if the other person likes you or not.

If you are unsure whether someone likes you or not, the following five signs are recommended to use as criteria.

* Going out to dinner together

* Talk to you often

* You often make eye contact with her/him

* Asks you personal questions about past relationships, etc.

* Willingness to help you with your work

Going out to eat together

This is the act of inviting someone out to dinner or drinks in private, unrelated to a work-related relationship.

If you invite someone of the opposite sex to dinner or a drink with you, it indicates that you have a certain degree of affection for her/him.

When you have a meal together, you will naturally talk about your private life.

By spending time alone together, you can get closer to each other.

This is common with relationships outside the workplace, and the opportunity does not always have to be within the company.

Also, if you feel uncomfortable asking someone out, you may use the construction of a work consultation.

They talk to you often

If they like you, you can see that they always smile and talk to you or talk to you often.

If this is the case often, it is highly likely that the person likes you.

If they talk to you often, be sure to smile at them as well. If you talk to them yourself, you will increase the likelihood of developing a relationship with them…

Eye contact is frequent

Regardless of whether you are a man or a woman, you will often look at the person you are interested in with your eyes.

Therefore, if you and your partner often make eye contact, it is highly likely that he/she is looking at you.

It doesn’t happen very often, but if you smile at someone when you make eye contact with them, you can expect them to like you.

However, it is also possible that the eye contact was just a coincidence.

Therefore, do not assume that he/she has a pulse, but use it as one of the factors for judgment. 

Asking private questions such as about past relationships

When a person asks you private questions about your past relationships, he/she likely has feelings for you.

Specifically, they may ask about your past relationships, the type of person you like, whether or not you have a current boyfriend, and so on.

When someone asks you about your past relationships, they are more likely to ask you about your current preferences.

In particular, if you are asked about past relationships, there is a high possibility that you have a pulse.

They are willing to help you with your work

If they are willing to help you with your work, there is a possibility that they like you.

Specifically, he/she is willing to help you work overtime or take the initiative in helping you with your work without making a sour face.

If they help you once or twice, it may be just out of kindness.

However, if they help you with your work frequently, they are likely doing it out of love for you.

If you are interested in him romantically, it is effective to ask him out for a meal as an excuse to thank him for helping you.