Making a woman obsessed with you. This is the ultimate goal that many men desire but rarely achieve. However, from my perspective, it's simply because they don't know the right psychological techniques.
During my time as a host, I captivated countless women. It wasn't just about looks or money. It was because I understood women's deep psychology and had the skills to approach them precisely.
This time, I'll reveal the core secrets without holding back. After reading this, you should be able to make her obsessed with you too. However, misuse is strictly forbidden. Please use these only for serious relationships.
Absolute Conditions of Men Women Become Obsessed With
The Attraction of Unpredictability
Women are attracted to "unreadable men." This is a fact proven by evolutionary psychology. Predictable men are "safe" but also "boring." On the other hand, unpredictable men are "dangerous" but "exciting."
The biggest reason I succeeded as a host was because I could create this unpredictability. Yesterday I was kind, today I'm aloof. Usually cool, but occasionally showing a passionate side. This gap captures women's hearts and doesn't let go.
However, this is different from being "capricious." It's calculated irregularity, changing behavior strategically while reading the other person's psychological state.
Creating Scarcity Value
People want what's hard to obtain more. This is a psychological principle called the "scarcity principle." In love too, a man who's slightly out of reach appears more attractive than one who's easily obtainable.
Specifically, always appear busy, don't reply immediately, occasionally turn down date invitations. Through these actions, your value naturally increases.
The key is to do this naturally. Obvious acting is counterproductive. By truly living a fulfilling life, scarcity value naturally emerges.
Creating Emotional Ups and Downs
Flat relationships are boring. Relationships where women become obsessed always have emotional ups and downs. After fun times, create some distance, then show kindness when she starts feeling anxious.
This applies the psychological principle called "intermittent reinforcement." Irregular rewards (in this case, expressions of affection) create higher dependency than regular rewards.
It's the same principle that makes casino slot machines highly addictive. People become obsessed because they don't know when they'll win.
Advanced Techniques Working on Deep Psychology
Utilizing the Mirroring Effect
By naturally mimicking the other person's gestures and way of speaking, you create affinity at an unconscious level. This is a technique called "mirroring."
For example, if she drinks coffee, you drink a little later. If she touches her hair, you naturally put your hand to your head. These actions plant the feeling "this person is similar to me" in the other person's unconscious.
However, overdoing it is forbidden. It's important to do it naturally, to a degree that the other person doesn't notice.
Becoming Special Through Anchoring
Link specific scents, music, and places to memories with you. This is "anchoring."
For example, always wear the same cologne on dates. Then, every time she smells that scent, she'll unconsciously remember you. Making a specific song "our song" is also effective.
I set different anchors for each woman. Each had a special scent, special place, special words. Through this, I became a one-of-a-kind existence in their minds.
Using Cognitive Dissonance
People have a tendency to align their actions with their emotions. This is called "cognitive dissonance."
For example, ask her for a small favor. Something light like "This book looks interesting, could you buy it for me?" is fine. When she does something for you, her brain interprets it as "I acted for this person. Therefore, I must like this person."
Start with small requests and gradually make them bigger. This is called the "foot-in-the-door technique." Eventually, she'll become convinced that she's obsessed with you.
Practical Conversation Techniques
Question Techniques That Stir Emotions
Superficial conversations don't move hearts. It's important to ask questions that directly access the other person's emotions.
"What was your happiest moment ever?" "What was your childhood dream?" "If the world ended tomorrow, what would you do?"
These questions touch the other person's deep parts. Then, listen seriously to the answers and show empathy. This creates the special feeling that "this person understands me."
The Power of Storytelling
Telling stories resonates more than listing facts. Convey your experiences and thoughts as emotionally rich stories.
Stories that begin with "Once, this happened to me..." have the power to draw people in. Not just success stories, but stories of failure and setbacks are also effective. Humans with scars appear more attractive than perfect ones.
The key is to include points the other person can empathize with in your story. And end with a positive message. This way, you'll be remembered as a "deep and attractive man."
Using Silence
Many men fear silence and end up talking unnecessarily. However, strategic silence becomes a powerful weapon.
After the other person speaks, wait 3 seconds without immediately reacting. During this silence, the other person waits for your reaction, creating tension. Then respond slowly with a deep voice.
This technique gives weight to your words, and the other person starts paying attention to every word you say.
Strategies for Long-term Relationship Building
Applying Investment Principles
People value what they've invested in. This is a psychology called the "sunk cost effect."
The more she invests time, effort, and emotion in you, the higher your value becomes. So it's important not to give everything, but to make the other person invest too.
Plan dates together, ask for handmade presents rather than expensive ones, share your worries. Through these, she invests in the relationship with you.
Sharing Growth
Stagnant relationships have no future. By constantly sharing new stimulation and growth, relationships deepen.
Start new hobbies together, travel to unknown places, support each other's goals. Through these experiences, the feeling "I can grow with this person" emerges.
I regularly proposed new challenges. Cooking classes, dancing, language learning. In the process of growing together, bonds naturally deepen.
Maintaining Independence
Ironically, men who don't depend on their partners are more attractive. It's important to have your own world and cherish it.
Work, hobbies, friendships. Don't dye these completely with her. Rather, show the attitude "You're important, but I have other important things too."
This makes her want to monopolize your attention, becoming even more obsessed.
Pitfalls to Avoid
Excessive Games Are Counterproductive
Relying too much on techniques reveals unnaturalness. The foundation is sincerity, and techniques are merely means to convey it effectively.
Testing behaviors, deliberately making her jealous, excessive push-and-pull. While these may be effective short-term, they cause loss of trust long-term.
Don't Ignore Individual Personalities
The same techniques don't work on all women. Approaches should change based on the other person's personality, values, and experiences.
Gentle approaches for introverted women, stimulating approaches for extroverted women. It's important to observe carefully and choose the optimal method.
Don't Lose Yourself
Don't drown in techniques and lose your true self. Ultimately, what the other person falls for is you, not the techniques.
Your values, beliefs, goals. Hold these firmly, then use techniques as means to convey them attractively. This is the correct usage.
Finally: Building True Relationships
I revealed these techniques not simply to seduce women. I want you to use them as a first step toward building truly valuable relationships.
Techniques are just the entrance. After making her obsessed, sincere relationship building is necessary. Respecting each other, growing together, sharing happiness. This is true love.
However, if you stumble at the first stage, you can't proceed further. That's why you should master these techniques and approach love with confidence.
Remember this. The best technique to make women obsessed is to become an attractive man yourself. These skills are merely tools to maximize that attractiveness.
If you start practicing today, you'll be like a different person in three months. And when you meet someone truly important, I promise these skills will become your strong allies.
