In relationships, the dynamic between the 'chaser' and the 'chased' determines 80% of the outcome. As a former host club owner who has interacted with thousands of women, I can confidently say that **the difference between men who control relationships and those who don't lies not in techniques, but in understanding psychological positioning**.
Today, I'll reveal why men who make women chase them are more attractive, and how to naturally take control in relationships using business-minded psychological strategies.
The Psychological Mechanism of 'Chasing' vs 'Being Chased' in Relationships
People Value What They Can't Easily Obtain
In relationship psychology, the 'scarcity principle' is fundamental. In business terms, it's the same mechanism that drives people to rush for limited edition products. **People don't value what comes easily**.
During my host club days, I always taught newcomers this iron rule: 'Don't contact them too much.' Why? The moment you become the chaser, your value in their eyes decreases.
The Psychological Traps of Being the Chaser
When you become the chaser, you fall into these psychological traps:
- Your emotions fluctuate based on their responses
- You take actions that lower your own value
- You become emotional and lose rational judgment
- You get completely caught up in their pace
All of these indicate **a loss of control in the relationship**.
Why Men Who Make Women Chase Are Attractive
The Overwhelming Appeal of Confidence and Composure
What men who make women chase have in common is overwhelming confidence and composure. This isn't an act - it comes from genuinely having 'other options besides this woman.'
In business terms, it's the difference between a salesman with multiple clients and one dependent on a single company. **Having options creates natural composure**.
Behavioral Patterns of Men Who Control Relationships
Analyzing the behavioral patterns of men who maintain control:
- They reply to messages at their own pace
- Their date proposals are specific and leading
- They don't get swayed by their partner's emotions
- They maintain the stance of valuing their own time
All of these are **behaviors that understand and maintain one's own value**.
Analyzing Relationship Control Strategies Through Business Thinking
Applying Supply and Demand to Relationships
The basic business principle of supply and demand applies perfectly to relationships. By limiting the supply of yourself as a 'product,' you can increase demand (your partner's interest).
Specific strategies:
1. **Create time scarcity**: Show that you're not always available
2. **Ration emotions**: Release affection gradually, leaving room for speculation
3. **Provide unique value**: Have clear attractions that other men don't possess
The Investment Principle: The Importance of Making Them Invest
In both business and relationships, **the more someone invests, the stronger their attachment becomes**. The more your partner invests time, emotions, and effort in you, the stronger their attachment grows.
Practical Techniques for Taking Control
Mastering Communication Frequency
The simplest and most effective technique is controlling communication frequency. Basic rules:
- End conversations before they do
- Take twice as long to reply as they do
- Show that your weekends fill up early
- Naturally convey fulfillment rather than just appearing 'busy'
Taking Control During Dates
Control during dates begins at the planning stage. **The key is giving options while making the final decision yourself**.
Example: Ask 'Italian or Japanese food this Saturday?' then follow with 'I know a great place, I'll make the reservation.'
Common Failure Patterns and Solutions
Becoming Too Cold While Trying to Control
Many men become simply cold while trying to maintain control. **Control doesn't mean ignoring your partner**. Rather, it's maintaining your pace while understanding their emotions.
Losing Trust When Games Become Obvious
Obvious games are quickly detected by intelligent women. The key is **actually living a fulfilling life**. Natural control comes from genuinely living attractively, not acting.
Conclusion: Relationship Control Is Life Control
Men who control relationships also control their lives. It's not just about techniques but **the result of correctly recognizing and maximizing your own value**.
To become a man who makes women chase:
1. Continuously work to increase your value
2. Have the composure that comes from multiple options
3. Maintain calm without being swayed by emotions
4. Develop observation skills to read psychology
5. Take action at appropriate timing
All of these are the same elements needed for business success. **Both relationships and business are essentially about managing human connections**.
Controlling relationships isn't about dominating your partner. It's about creating a dynamic where both can be their most attractive selves. And men who can do this are the ones who truly succeed in love.
