Long Distance Relationship

Long-distance relationships require you to be creative in your relationship because of the infrequency of meeting each other.
Let’s take a look at some tips for making long-distance relationships last longer in the future. We will also introduce some tips on how to cope with loneliness when you inevitably feel lonely.

Tips for making long-distance relationships last longer:

Trust your partner.

Couples in long-distance relationships that last long tend to trust their partner. It is easy to feel anxious and think negatively when you are apart. However, imagining things won’t make the anxiety go away. The feeling of “I miss you” and “I want to see you” is the same for the other person, so it is better to trust them and make the most of your time.

Decide on your relationship’s frequency of contact.

Frequent contact is important, but decide how often you will contact each other. Since you cannot see each other easily in a long-distance relationship, it is very important to keep in touch with each other frequently, and it is also good to talk on the phone or on LINE.
However, be careful not to contact too often. Some people may feel overloaded if you contact them too often, so it is a good idea for the two of you to discuss and decide on the frequency of contact.

Do not interfere or constrain the other person.

Because you don’t see each other, you tend to worry about what the other person is doing, but it is also a bad idea to interfere too much. If you interfere, the other person will feel suffocated and feel as if you are doubting them.
If this feeling escalates, it will become increasingly difficult to be in a relationship. The key to making a long-distance relationship last is to avoid asking too many questions or constraining your partner.

Express your love with words.

In a long-distance relationship, you will inevitably spend more time without seeing each other. With this set up, try to express your affection honestly in your own words.
When you see each other for the first time in a while, hugging and holding hands are also recommended.

How to have a good long-distance relationship.

Avoid saying that you miss them or want to see them as much as possible. It is very important to be honest with your partner about your feelings.
However, if you only say “I miss you” or “I want to see you” the other person will feel stressed. Since the feelings of loneliness and wanting to see each other is the same for both of you, try to be patient.
If you talk with your partner, try saying something positive like, “Let’s do something when we see each other next time.”

Celebrate anniversaries and birthdays even if you cannot see each other.

If you are far apart, there is a possibility that you will not be able to meet on anniversaries or birthdays. Even if you cannot meet, congratulate them on LINE or by phone. Simply expressing your commendations is enough to convey your feelings.
When you are busy with the changes in your environment, it is easy to forget anniversaries and birthdays. In such cases, please do not blame the recipient, but rather, make them work hard to make up for their busy days.

Don’t put the burden of money only on the other person.

Long-distance relationships cost money as well as time. It is better to share the financial burden equally as much as possible. For example, if your boyfriend comes to see you every time, it is one way for him to pay for the date.
It is also a good idea to meet in the middle rather than at each other’s place of residence. Meeting in an unusual place will give you the feeling of traveling, and most importantly, you can both share the financial burden.

How to drown your loneliness in a long-distance relationship:

Even after practicing the tips and methods that make long-distance relationships last longer and work well, some people may still feel lonely. The fact that you are not close enough to see each other easily makes the loneliness worse. Why don’t you try to distract yourself from your feelings of loneliness by using the methods I will introduce hereafter?

When you feel like crying, don’t hold it in.

Sometimes you cannot hold back your feelings of loneliness, and you may feel like bursting into tears. In such cases, don’t hold back and cry as hard as you can. When you cry with all your might, you will feel strangely lightened.
Tears naturally overflow, perhaps because your heart is tired. Once you let it all out and detox your mind, you will feel much better.

Take time to improve yourself.

Instead of thinking, “I miss my lover,” try to change your mindset and think, “I have time for myself”. When you are in a long-distance relationship, loneliness is inevitable. Being caught up in these negative feelings can cause you to become more and more depressed.
At times like this, it is good to think that you now have some free time to yourself and devote yourself to hobbies and self-improvement. When your private life is fulfilled, your love life will also go well. Try to enjoy your own time without depending on your partner too much.

Meet a lot of people.

Another effective way to distract yourself from loneliness is to meet a lot of people. Even if you are not with your girlfriend whom you can talk to, talking to other people will calm you down. Try to spend your days meeting many people and laughing.