In communities where fat people are not allowed to exist like Japan, fat Japanese women are subjected to “airy discrimination”. They are not approached at drinking parties or on trips, and men rarely make eye contact with them.
Men seem to feel that such “desire to be thin” of women is abnormal, but the first thing to know is that women being thin is not for the sake of attracting men but, to feel good about themselves having and ideal body.
That ideal image is of a popular model or celebrity. I want to have that kind of style, wear that kind of clothes, and be the kind of person who can talk openly in front of everyone. I am not a lesbian or anything. I can’t change my face, so I try to fix with my hair, fashion, and body shape to be like those models and celebrities.
But models and celebrities are much thinner than the standard body shape that they appear to be too skinny. Even though a body mass index of 20 to 22 is perfectly acceptable for men, but Japanese women is trying their best to achieve a body mass index of 18 or less.
So, men cannot claim that women is trying to look good for them to be displayed beside them and look good with them. Maybe there are some women who has that aspiration to be beside a man to be displayed but not all of them.
In fact, women is selective when it comes to men. As the lyrics of “God of Romance” by Kamie Hirose says, when they find a good guy, they “casually check his age, address, hobbies, and occupation” and say, “I’ve been waiting for you, I’ve passed the line.
But there is a more practical reason for being “thin”: when you get fat, you lose all your clothes. Aside from the well-known brands, small and medium-sized brands only have one-size-fits-all clothing. Moreover, the one-size-fits-all brands are made to fit people who are slightly thinner than the norm. Therefore, the moment your body shape exceeds that size, you will only be able to get clothes that are either uncool or expensive
The aspect of easy self-actualization also encourages people to “lose weight. With some effort, you can get by temporarily. When you lose weight, your brain produces endorphins, a feel-good hormone, which suppresses your appetite, just like anorexia.
Then stress builds up and sweets are eaten. This is like alcohol for men. And they are not offended if they consume it during the daytime on weekdays. However, if they eat a lot of sweets, they reduce the amount of food they eat because they do not want to gain weight. Then, even if your weight does not change, your body fat percentage will increase. So it is easy to fall into a vicious cycle of eating less and less …….
Therefore, in order to exchange information on how to lose weight and to keep each other in check, fat people form communities with other fat people, and thin people form communities with other thin people. In a community of thin people, fat people are not allowed to exist. They will not be suppressed, but they will naturally not be considered as friends because they usually pay attention to different things and hesitate to talk about fashion.
For a woman to increase the survival rate of her offspring, she should not be excluded from such a community. Being “thin” is also a path to escape “airy discrimination” and to gain “participation rights” in the community. Identification with role models, self-actualization, and the right to participate in the community.
Please keep these three points in mind to help you understand women.
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